The fear of approaching someone new, putting yourself out there, and the possibility of looking stupid are all reasons why we avoid starting a conversation with someone new. But if we never make that step, we will never be able to start that spark. So here are 10 ways to get over that fear and start approaching women today.
1. HAVE CONFIDENCE
When you see that attractive girl sitting alone, there is no reason why you shouldn’t be sitting with her. The only thing stopping you, is you. Women are more attracted to a guy that has enough confidence in himself to approach her, introduce himself, and start a conversation with her. They aren’t interested in the guy that keeps looking at them and never makes his way over. They don’t want a guy who is afraid of girls. They want a man that is comfortable in his own skin to come up to them and sweep them off their feet.
2. TAKE A RISK
How far would you get in life if you never jumped in feet first and took a risk? If you don’t gamble, you won’t win. As cliché as that sounds, it’s the truth. Think of it like the lottery. If you don’t play you can’t win. Same thing with women. If you don’t take the risk and head over there, you can’t win her.
3. QUIT MAKING EXCUSES
The more you talk to yourself, the more excuses you make to avoid taking the chance on starting a new relationship. The more excuses you make for not going over to her, the more you are going to miss out. There are no excuses why you are better off alone.
4. STAY POSITIVE
This goes along with all those excuses you make. What good can come of filling your head with all the bad things that could happen if you talk to someone new? Instead of telling yourself all the NEGATIVE things that could happen, focus on that main positive goal. If you go up to a new girl, she will be delighted that a great guy like you is interested in her.
5. QUIT RATIONALIZING
As people, we are so good at convincing ourselves that the easiest way is the best way. Just like with money, sports, and jobs, it takes hard work to be successful with women. And the hardest work, is getting up and taking yourself over to that pretty lady and saying, “Hi”. The outcome is well worth the effort.
6. STAY REALISTIC
Think about this; what is the worst thing can happen if you approach someone new and introduce yourself? Is anything life-altering, world-shattering, heart-crushing going to happen? Stay real guys. If the worst thing that happens is that she really isn’t that interested in you, I think you will recover just fine. At least you will know the outcome rather than wondering forever what would have happened.
7. ACT ON INSTINCT
You’re a man. You’re instinctual. You see that pretty thing, standing at the bar and want to talk to her. GO! Don’t think, don’t wonder, don’t discuss it, JUST GO! Once you start walking over there and she sees you, there is no way you will back down and risk looking like a fool by turning around and running away.
8. DON’T PRESSURE YOURSELF
The more pressure you put on yourself, the more stress you create. The more stress you create, the less anyone will want to talk to you. So, remember that you are a great guy and if she likes you that would be perfect. If she doesn’t, that’s cool too, because the next girl will.
9. HAVE REALISTIC GOALS
Don’t set yourself up for failure. Set realistic goals for yourself. That gorgeous girl will probably not be your wife, mother of your children, and forever lover. Instead, maybe she will be your hot date for Friday night. Take that small goal and go from there.
10. THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE MISSING
What if you never approach someone new? What if you see so many beautiful women but wimp out every single time? Not only are you missing out on so many opportunities, but you will always wonder “what if?”. You have no idea what the outcome will be and will kick yourself when you see her with your best friend next week. Take ahold of the opportunity. You owe it to yourself to find out what will happen next.